This is going to be a long rambling post and im probably not going to make much sense as im so excited but you will get the gist at the end im thinking.
Okay so you may or may not know that i have had some issues with depression and anxiety. And for a long time i have felt it work related. I have mentioned to hubby on many occasions that i cannot cope and i am really really exhausted trying to put one foot in front of the other day in and day out when i have not had the energy or inclination. But, i have done it as i have felt i need to be *strong* and suck it up and just get on with it.
I touch a little on it in this post
hereAnyway, after having a mini break down on ummm wed night i think,,,,,after telling darrel what is really going on in my head, the mental dialogue that is always in my mind he has given me his support and i can leave my job.
Now please dont get me wrong, he has always supported me and has always allowed me to do whatever it is i have wanted to do, he has never really said NO. Well i felt that i couldnt just give up because i would be letting us down as a family because lets face it.....you need money to live and my wage feeds us.
I am editing this post on Oct 8th as i havent gotten back to it and alot has happenend in the meantime.
Okay so i was having a really bad day and i happened to sent a facebook message to a friend asking if there were any jobs going where she worked....to my surprise she said bring in your resume and come meet my boss.
On the Monday i went to visit the boss and handed in my resume. She asked me to come back the following Monday for a trial and as i had that day off i was thrilled to be asked. I was there for about an hour and a half and it was SO MUCH fun, not the same as my current job but with similarities:)
After the trial she mentioned that she had some other girls to try out but that so far i was looking promising, this made me feel so wanted..but i couldnt count my chickens yert could i?? She told me that she would make a decision on the Friday and that she would let me know.
Fingers were crossed and i was so pumped and excited and so happy to have even been considered. Imagine my surprise on wed afternoon after finishing late that i had a missed call from her. I quickly rang her back....thank goodness that i had just put credit on my phone.......i usually use my phone for texting only:)
Anyways she told me that I HAD THE JOB IF I WANTED IT! Are you kidding course i wanted it...can i start it tommorrow LOL.
We discussed notice and the like and when i would be able to start.
I promptly went home and polished up the resignation letter that had been on my computer for some time and printed if off to hand to my boss the next day.
Fast forward a week and imagine my total disappointment when my boss comes to me (and me thinking yay only 3 working days left) and tells me that i have to give her 4 yes 4 WEEKS NOTICE!!!! Spewin!
Anyway after alot of discussion and deciding that nope i was going to just keep with my two weeks, it seems if i dont that they can hold back monies! Grrrrr!
I spoke to my new boss to be and we decided that my new start date will be Oct 31st!!! It happens to work out better for her and as i always say, things happen for a reason....and i dont miss out on any money......And i made my family proud!
Zoe said to me when i took her out to go to a friends *im proud of you mum* i asked why and she said because you fought to prove her wrong but when it turned out she was right well you just decided to go with what was right.
Now you have an end date, and its not like you have to be there forever, she could see how unhappy i was having to see out the extra two weeks so it felt good to know that i was showing my kids the right way to handle this and my attitude proves that you can overcome anything really. I told her that i was actually finishing now on Grans birthday and she said well you will be partying extra hard that day hey mumxx
So just goes to show, doesnt matter how sad and miserable you are ( and believe me ,,,,i was damn miserable) that there is always something jsut around the corner.
Now i have not been happy there for such a long time but it is definately Serendippity! How i love that word:) It has turned out great and i am so excited and im not even anxious or scared or nervous....really weird considering how bad i get just having to go to work there every day compared to starting something brand new!!
So today i handed in my amended dates of resignation and i rang my boss last night to tell i would stay the two weeks if she wanted.
Now what gets my goat really bad here is that she tried to guilt me into staying by telling me she had no staff capable and with one supervisor how hard it would be to train some one else......
I told her well actually
1 you have already replaced me
2 your superviser now is capable and
3 There is no room for growth for me any more!
During the course of these bosses ownership of the business i have gone from being their right hand helper in showing them everything about the day to day running of the shop, from ordering and right through to daily routines and even hygiene and supervisor...now its been a long time coming but now i only supervise on the 2 days the other supervisor is not there...not bad considering we were supposed to be *sharing* the job.......I only do the orders on those same days, pretty much all responsibility has been taken away from me, now dont get me wrong, i understand my lack of confidence, anxiety and deppression has played a part in this decision for her but to just continually take things away without any explanation it just made me feel totally useless hopeless and stupid, so in turn why should i keep trying so i would just say i didnt know something or just tell people to ask the supervisor or boss stuff.,...knowing darn well i knew it but everytime i made a decision, even as small as which job to delegate to who when, and my decision being undermined i decided stuff it you can stick it where the sun dont shine! You feel my decision is not the right one or you dont feel like following my ideas well pffft go right ahead dont bother asking my opinion:)
Anyway i dont care anymore...im LEAVING!!!!!!!!!
I am going to be helpful honest and do my work to the best of my ability until it is time for me to go so there is no way anyone can come back and say oh you dont care your leaving anyway.....so i can just say to myslef....ahhhh stick it hahaha:)
And know when i walk out of there on my last day that i can go with my head held high and be proud of all that i have achieved there. I did grow and learn alot in the 9.5 years i was there but it is now definatly time for me to move on.
There are certain people i will miss customer wise and some who i will not!!!!!
I am so pleased and excited to be able to have something fun to move on to and that i was highly recommended by the girl i originally asked...i cannot thank her enough for putting herself out there and voting for me.....i will not let her or my new boss down so all i can say is
*BRING IT ON!!!!!!!
So stay tuned for the next happy bubbly instalment of my life:)
Charxx